Relationship & Love Advice
In 21st century’s interconnected culture, the concept of relationships have also undergone a sea change. We are now living in times where careers and organizations take priority over intimate relationships. So after the initial rush of passion fades, and you don’t want your relationship go south, how can you keep the relationship going?
The first thing is that if you have had previous relationships, then make it a point to learn from them. You can make a sort of relationship inventory where you list what you have learnt and understood from your past relationships. This will give you greater clarity and capacity for creating and sustaining both sexual and emotional intimacy with your present partner. Also, when reviewing your past relationship, focus more on your actions and reactions to understand what was right and wrong in your past relationships. You could also reflect and write down what attracted you to that person and why, at that particular time of your life.
Also give thought to the qualities of the person that attracted you to him or her. Why did those qualities attract you in the first place? You need to be very honest while answering this question regardless of what you feel about them today.
You can also describe your own level of emotional development and awareness at the time of each of those relationships.
Sex is an important part of a love relationship so think about how you viewed sex with your partners in each relationship you entered. Of course, you’ll be writing this from today’s vantage point but try to portray it as honestly and impartially as you can of what happened at that particular time and why.
Be impartial in your description and avoid blaming yourself or your partners. Treat this as an impersonal and clinical exercise that gives you a very clear and unbiased perspective of yourself – your actions and reactions and what you have assimilated from them.
Since this is an introspection do, focus on your blind spots, your own behaviour or unexpressed feelings that might have contributed to the failure or to prolonging the relationship when it would have been healthier to end it sooner.
You may well wonder why the past is important. Yes, the past is important because it is from the seed of your past that your present will be born and your future will flower.
You can use what you’ve discovered from your relationship inventory to take you forward in your current or next relationship. What you have learnt will help you avoid the mistakes you have made in the past and focus on the qualities that could strengthen your current and future relationships.
So describe the attitudes and behaviour you believe would increase and help sustain intimacy, passion and connection, in contrast to focussing on ongoing frustration over being "heard," "understood" or "accepted" for who you are.
Relationship advice can never be general. This is because each person is unique and consequently each journey he/she takes with the partner is unique. More than anyone else, you and only you can provide yourself the advice and answers you need to sustain your relationship.
However, despite the differences there is one fact that remains common and that is something that you have to learn – learn to forget yourself – or in other words, give to your partner instead of trying to get what you want in return.
In today’s competitive times, we are all taught to conduct ourselves to get our "needs" met through strategies of self-interest, manipulation and subterfuge and all this in the name of survival. But remember in the rule of the heart, the ways of the world don’t apply.
Introspecting and finding the right answers may seem like a daunting task given the social and cultural conditioning we all undergo. So if you are unable to find your answers, you can seek relationship advice from our gifted psychics. Blessed with metaphysical powers, our psychics can reach where you find it difficult to reach and they can guide and advice you to find your way forward in your relationships.